The secret is ‘forgive and forget’

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To forgive and forget is one Whitby couple’s secret to having a happy marriage.

And it seems to have worked for Valerie and Doug Heselton who are celebrating their diamond wedding anniversary.

The couple, of Runswick Court, shared their top tips for 60 years of wedded bliss with the Gazette before celebrating their special occasion with a party at the Rifle Club for family and friends.

Doug (83) said: “If you have an argument , forgive and forget about it and carry on.”

Valerie (79) added: “We have had a long marriage together and we have been very happy.”

They met when they both rowed for the Fisherlad’s. At the time Doug was working as an apprentice carpenter at Stuart’s on Church Street and he would wave at Valerie as she walked home from school.

On October 8, 1955 they got married at St Mary’s Church and moved to Tin Ghaut.

When Doug finished his apprenticeship he joined the Merchant Navy and sailed with Headlam’s, the last Whitby shipping company.

After that he worked in construction and was posted abroad to places such as Zambia, Algeria, Brussels and Hamburg.

Valerie got a job as a shop assistant in Woolworths when she left school and also worked at the old Whitby Laundry and Burberrys.

She ran the original Board Inn pub on Cliff Street before the couple moved to Brunswick Street where their three children Marcia, Paul and Richard were raised.

The couple, who enjoyed dancing at The Royal and the Spa three nights a week, have seven grandchildren.